I agree with pretty much everything you’ve stated except for:

The problem is, too many people keep trying to think, how can we make the Fediverse relevant in the modern world?

I dont think this is a problem. The fediverse accomplishes exactly what it sought to do, a decentralized social network. This is uncharted territory and has been working out surprisingly well. I thought I would be off this 2 months after reddit killed 3rd party clients, but here I am!!

the minute we start to push growth at any cost is the minute the fediverse quality declines, in my opinion.

theyre sinking too much money trying to avoid using activitypub

remix on glitch? can I edit the html of my page? this sounds like myspace, and I’m here for it